by Stephanie MoDavis
For eons, human relationships have largely operated through an outdated paradigm of transaction - giving in order to get, scratching backs, and keeping tallies. Interactions are based on bartering energy, favors, sex, status or resources in a never-ending cycle of trade. Even seemingly intimate bonds often play by unspoken rules of quid pro quo - I'll do this for you if you do that for me.
However, a profound shift is and has been stirring that beckons us to shed these inauthentic, mercantilist relating patterns in favor of truly heart-centered bonds. The old framework of relationship as formulaic and contractual is falling away, revealed as artificial and severing. As human consciousness evolves, our way of connecting with ourselves, one another, and life itself must realign with deeper authenticity. The longing runs deep and when let to run amok in the unconscious, perpetuates the projection of our inner most damaged parts.
In place of quid pro quo's codependent dynamics, the emerging paradigm roots interactions in shared vulnerability, acceptance, and personal freedom. There is no hidden agenda of trying to extract something in return when we operate from the heart space. Our actions arise from a pure, overflowing expression of our core being instead.
Rather than relating as pitted against one another in protracted negotiations, open-hearted presence establishes a unified field with others. Meeting with radical empathy and realness, we recognize the other as an intrinsic part of ourselves. In the light of this interconnected awareness, the notion of keeping score or gaming to get needs met appears absurd and ultimately futile.
While letting go of transactional defaults can feel disorienting at first, we gain access to something far more meaningful - relationships aligned with the highest human capacities for love, creativity, and synergistic flow. Existing independent of how much we produce or accumulate, our bonds become celebrations of mutual awakening through humble authenticity.
Tuning to the song of the heart utterly redefines what it means to commune. Rather than dwelling in the conventional confines of using each other as human resources, we encounter souls and tend to the spark of the sacred present in one another. At last we create from infinite wellsprings rather than scarcity. We are growing weary of this game.
This is the dawning of the interconnected, beloved community of which mystics and dreamers envisioned.
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